Hello, darkness, my old friend…
Alright, it’s not that bad. You’re moving back home. Maybe you need some time to get on your feet or figure out your next step. Whatever the reason, you’re headed to your parents’ house and likely dreading it. But it doesn’t have to be as miserable as you might think. Use the tips below to survive moving home after graduation.
Set a reasonable timetable: If you know that you only need a place to stay before starting grad school or some other program in the fall, then be upfront about that time frame. If things are a bit more open-ended, be honest about that too. Don’t try to sugarcoat it or set unrealistic expectations. But do try to set a target move-out date to stay motivated. Then schedule regular check-ins with your parents to revisit the timetable.
Agree on some ground rules: This may require adhering to a curfew. Sure, your college roommates didn’t mind if you were out until four o’clock in the morning, but your parents surely will. They may also have some strong feelings about having guests over or leaving your room a mess. And you may have to give some guidelines about personal space or freedom. Sit down right away to have a frank discussion about expectations for this new living arrangement.
Pitch in around the house: Oh, the amenities! Suddenly, everywhere you look there’s home-cooked food and fancy appliances. Enjoy the cushy lifestyle, but make sure to contribute as well. Make dinner for the family once a week. Do the laundry (using washers and dryers that don’t require quarters, amazing!) and dishes. Throw in money for rent, groceries, and utilities. You’re not just their kid; now you’re their roommate.
Realize that your parents are actually cool: We hate to break it to you, but your social life may take a bit of a dive. On the bright side, that means more quality time with your parents. You’ll be able to hang out as friends, have heart-to-heart conversations, and learn more about them than ever before. You might even find out that they’re cooler than you remember. (Plus, let’s face it, letting you move back in with them was pretty cool.)
Reach for your dreams…from the comfort of your twin size bed.